It’s Not You, It’s Me: Maybe Giving Your Job A Chance Is A Good Idea

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It’s that time of the day again. It’s Monday, the alarm clock just went off, and you have to go to work. You drag yourself out of bed. 

Have you done all you could to shake off this nagging feeling? If you have, then maybe it’s time to really quit. If you haven’t, then maybe you should consider giving your job a chance.

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Maybe you’re just done with the honeymoon period

You thought you’ve found your dream job only to find out that you’re not quite compatible at all. What if it’s an overseas job and you had to give up a lot for it?

“Every job is going to have tradeoffs,” Dorie Clark, author of “Reinventing You: Define Your Brand, Imagine Your Future,” tells HBR.com in an interview.

HBR meanwhile explains that maybe you should also look into whether you have to endure said trade-off because it is part of the job.

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Career coach and bestselling author, Michael Hyatt, shares the same sentiment and asks workers to reflect on the real issue.

“You need to carefully identify what the real issues are. Is the problem your current job, your boss, a coworker, the system, the whole company, what?” he says.

Hyatt further adds that you should tell your supervisor what the problem is, otherwise, you’ll be filled with what-ifs. Your employer is not a mind-reader after all, and you won’t know the truth if you don’t confront him.

Like Hyatt, Mark Halloran, president and founder of Cobblestone Human Capital, thinks that sacrifices have to be made and that include regular meetings with your boss about your job performance.

“It is your responsibility to get proactive. Forget fate. You should never leave any aspect of your career to chance. If you want your situation to change, you have to change your situation,” Halloran says.

Or, you can just get over it

This can mean three things: turn over that resignation letter, or quietly persevere until you work your way to the top.

Author and self-proclaimed life enthusiast Mark Manson has an article, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, which, actually, pretty much sums up what you have to do.

You could spend an eternity super pissed off, or just get on with your life and not give a f*ck.

Manson specifically advises people to “conserve their f*cks.” Sometimes, zero fudge should just be allotted for a trivial situation. It’s a life skill that everyone should learn.

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A year ago, I was going through a rough patch and thought I should consult a psychiatrist. I was depressed and unproductive. The root reason: job dissatisfaction.

My shrink said the reason I was feeling burnt out, sad and pissed off all the time was not my job per se, but because I couldn’t set my priorities straight.

He asked me what I want to do and it’s like the floodgates were opened; out came all my brilliant ideas and master plans.

He concluded that my real problem was that I had so many goals which was too much to handle for me. No wonder I was feeling agitated and depressed; I couldn’t meet my towering expectations.

Remember what Manson said about conserving your f*cks. This situation is a perfect example of what could happen when too many fudge are given.

He said that I should choose only one mother of all goals, and treat that as an anchor for everything I do. I shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.

In a nutshell, it’s just a matter of changing perspectives. Eyes on the prize.

Steps you can take

Do something about your unhappiness.

Make a conscious effort to get out of your rut, says women’s career coach Kathy Caprino. Otherwise, you will stay in it. Break the cycle of negativity and have a “can do” attitude.

Caprino says that one of the “red flags” that she looks at when assessing a client who need to be “unstuck” is their readiness to commit to job happiness. If they seem to be filled with blame, then work has to be done.

“Become hyper-vigilant in noticing where blame plays a role in your thinking. When blames appears, STOP. Take three deep breaths, and say to yourself, ‘There goes one of those blaming thoughts.’ Then release it, with self-acceptance,” she advises readers in her column on Forbes.com.

Take a vacation or sabbatical.

Quitting your job isn’t the only solution. Maybe you just need to take a breather, and get away from your cubicle. Use your holidays, and go to an exotic place.

You need not go far though to get to your happy place. Maybe a day of shopping at the mall, dining out or pampering at your local spa could do the job. Or stay at home and binge-watch your missed TV shows.

If you really need a long break to recalibrate, then take a look into your HR policies for long leaves. Some workplaces allow employees to take a sabbatical for about a year to be able to focus on what they like.

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I personally know a teacher at a local school who was allowed by her employer to go on a one-year sabbatical years ago, and she spent her time working on her poetry. It is possible. All you have to do is ask.

Engage in a new hobby.

Just like taking a vacation, pursuing a weekend or after-work hobby could give you a break from your monotonous work days.

Create something with your hands: cultivate a garden; paint or recycle old materials into new home furnishings; cook and bake for your family and friends. You will go back to work energized, for sure.

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Enroll in a skill-building course.

If you feel like your career isn’t progressing or that you aren’t learning something new from your job, then maybe it’s time to take matters into your own hands.

With so many online courses to choose from nowadays, not to mention the free ones, you can finally upgrade your skills at your spare time. Check out Udemy, Coursera or Shaw Academy for affordable, but accredited courses that can help you.

Ask to be transferred to another department.

Think your work station is toxic or dread passing by your boss’s office? Maybe a change of environment is what you need. Get yourself transferred or apply for a vacant position at another department if you think you may be a good fit.

Volunteer for a project you care about.

If you think you have gone unnoticed at work for a seriously long time, be proactive and volunteer to lead or participate.  

Sounds easier said than done? Just do it. According to The MUSE, make it a point to share directly with your boss your own professional and personal goals at work.

Before you decide to quit your job, make sure you have exhausted all efforts to rekindle your desire for it.

Just as the company chose to gave you a shot over other candidates, you should also consider giving your job another chance.

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Sandy Miguel is an independent website publisher, journalist and photographer from the Philippines. She used to be the managing director of an advertising technology provider where she managed around 50 online contractors at one time. Sandy writes about managing work-related stress, exploring one's options outside the four corners of an office, and work-life balance for Get Over Your Job.